Ever have one of those days where you wake up and think “I really don’t want to be a mom today”? I know, I know. You LOVE being a mom. You wouldn’t trade it for the world. It’s the best thing ever. But… still, let’s be real. There are some days where you want to kick back and relinquish all responsibilities, including motherhood.
Another new mom and I were talking about this as if we shared some deep, dark mama secret. We knew that every mom has probably felt this way on certain bad days. But we still felt guilty admitting it for ourselves. It seems like us mamas know we’re not expected to love every moment of motherhood but we still feel guilty when we “break the rules.” We’re supposed to love being moms (we do). But we’re not expected to love every minute of it (we don’t, we admit). Yet we still feel guilty that we don’t love every minute of it.
What gives? Why is this?
Us moms need to be honest with ourselves and each other. It’ll help us realize we’re not alone and, hopefully, this realization will create a new reality of motherhood. There are times when I have to remind myself to talk to my child more. There are days when I curse the time he wakes up from his nap. There are days I just wish he’d stop dawdling and focus on moving from point A to point B.
I love being a mom. I love my son more than anything in the world. But this doesn’t mean I can’t get cranky, overloaded and burnt out.
Mamas, how do you feel? Are there some things you’d like to admit about being a mom?
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This is how I feel right now, obviously, since my search “tired of being a mommy” brought up this article. Right now we are having some particularly difficult times in my family with my extremely active, somewhat defiant son about to turn 4 and my daughter 20 months. They used to get along tolerably well but lately I hear nothing but whining and screaming when they try to play together. This mommy thing is harder than I thought it would be. I agree with the statement Sarah made about having to remind herself to talk to her son–I sometimes realize the same thing. As a task-oriented person, it’s hard for me to juggle the job of managing the finances, keeping house, and running my part-time business with being a mother and trainer of children. Task-oriented me wants to get rolling and keep going until it’s done; that me can’t stand it when my preschoolers slow everything down to a crawl. Mommy me remembers to have have patience but the balance between the two is extremely taxing to maintain. I will always feel it is worth the sacrifice to stay home with my children but fantasize about going to a job everyday until my kids are in school and I do have a job, then I’ll probably fantasize about staying home with babies again lol!
Exactly! This was what I was feeling. Sometimes, I wish I have a bit more time to myself!