What to do when your child hates school

School should be an exciting place where our children begin learning the skills they’ll need to carry them through life. It should be an engaging, positive environment where children can not only learn new things, but make new friends. In short, school should be fun. Unfortunately, many kids just don’t see it that way. It’s not uncommon for children to resist going to school, fake illness to stay home, or rebelliously act out in class. It’s important to know how to deal with these problems so your child can be happy and productive in the classroom.

 

First, you’ll have to figure out the problem. You need to understand why your child harbors such negative feelings about going to school in the morning if you expect to change his or her outlook. Children often feel anxious about leaving their familiar environment to spend the whole day at a place that is foreign and possibly frightening to them. This feeling is not just restricted to children. Consider how you might feel if you were forced into strange new surroundings. You would almost certainly experience some kind of anxiety about the change. This anxiety can lead to loneliness, as children who are intimidated by their surroundings are less likely to make friends.

On the other hand, children who are very active may also have problems adapting to the classroom environment. Students are expected to remain seated and quiet for long periods of time, and this may be something your child isn’t accustomed to. Children with a surplus of energy may have trouble learning due to their restlessness, and they may be more prone to acting out and getting into trouble.

Whatever the reason, it is important to take steps toward remedying these problems as soon as possible. Talk to your child, as well as the child’s teacher, to try to get the full story. Children can be resistant to talking about these kind of things, but his or her teachers may be able to provide valuable input. If your child is performing poorly in class, you might consider enlisting outside help, such as an after school tutor, to help the youngster understand the curriculum. Higher grades can be a major confidence booster for young children. On the other hand, if your child is receiving high marks and still unhappy at school, he or she might be too advanced for the curriculum. Students who aren’t engaged at an early age have less chance of succeeding in advanced education later on, and you don’t want criminal justice masters programs to be out of reach in the future. Look into advanced placement courses that may be more challenging and engaging.

Above all, try to instill a sense of confidence in your child. This is perhaps the best thing you can do. Send them into school with a positive attitude, but don’t coddle them. You don’t want to act as a safety net here; you want to be supportive and encouraging of your child’s first step toward independence and growth. If you appear anxious about sending your child off to school, he or she will pick up on this. Go into this new stage of life with confidence and positive thinking, and address problems as early as possible.

 

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